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Here’s this week’s schedule:
May 1st: (TODAY) 12-3 pm, Costco–Spanish Fork
May 2nd: 1-3 pm, BYU Women’s Conference at the BYU Bookstore
If you’re still looking for a Mother’s Day gift, women have reviewed it as a great choice (see reviews below). So this week when you buy a gift, you get a gift—it doesn’t get any better!
Thanks and enjoy this excerpt!
Connie
www.conniesokol.com
Reviews on The Life is Too Short Collection (top 100 in Parenting and Families Kindle store):
“Every woman needs to read this and be blessed with her wisdom and humor!”
Joy Lundberg, Co-author of I Don’t Have to Make Everything All Better
“If your spirits are down, if you need a good laugh, or just a good dose of therapy, this book is a must read. I laughed until my sides hurt at the many hilarious, real-life experiences Connie shares as she offers women a healthy reality-check. This is a great gift for any woman in your life who feels overwhelmed, including you. Mother’s Day shopping, done!” M.R. Buttars, Book Reviewer
Lose the Hover Mother
I tell the following hovering experience for a reason. Mainly, because I’m desperate to believe that there are other mothers who hover, helicopter, or like me, land the aircraft and are ready to invade.
My sweet daughter (first daughter, maybe that’s it) had cheer camp one year. She and her best friend from the previous year—who were now at different schools—had done a cheer camp each year. It was their special time to bond and connect.
They got together that initial Monday, not having seen each other in a long time, and this sweet gal would hardly give my daughter the time of day. She stood away from her, barely smiled, and hardly talked at all. My daughter tried to take her hand, like they usually did, but the friend put her hand in her pocket and moved away.
My heart was breaking for my sweet Chelsea. I thought, This is one of those piercing moments of childhood, when you grow apart from dear friends and no longer share the same interests…blah, blah, blah. I almost called my husband about it—this really put me out all morning—”the loss” as I was about to name it.
Thankfully, I didn’t call him. Thankfully, I have at least grown up a wee bit in my middle age to not have to be so mired in my daughter’s young and uncomplicated life (that I feel so driven to complicate).
And did I mention she is only seven years old?
Two days later, heading out to cheer camp once again, this friend’s mother told me that they didn’t realize until Monday evening that her daughter had a FEVER and was SICK AS A DOG that day. At that moment, as if on cue, her daughter bounded up to my car, her usual smiley, happy self. Immediately, she and my daughter made plans for an extended play date the next day.
The moral to the story here is: butt out. Allowing our children to go through the perceived pangs of childhood without the overdone feelings of motherhood is a healthy thing. Sure the validation is needed, sure my daughter felt something was up. My hugs to her and a little fun time with Mom on that tough first day surely helped. But THANK GOODNESS I didn’t call up her mother immediately and find out why her daughter wasn’t kind to my daughter. Thank goodness I let things be, for one tiny moment, and let it play itself out.
This week, enjoy your children’s lives as a mother and not a helicopter.
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