The day I hit rock bottom
Years ago I was at rock bottom, emotionally and physically.
I had four children--six and under, and my oldest was autistic. I had no family living close, and I was beyond sleep deprived. But worse, I had started to lose the vision of me a person.
I kept feeling like, “Why can't I get it together? What's wrong with me? Why don't I feel more fulfilled as a mother when I wanted and chose to have these wonderful children?”
And then one day, a switch flipped inside me. Just like that.
And I knew I needed to do it differently.
So I hired a babysitter for an hour and a half, went in my room, and said, “What do I want to do?”
And I didn't know.
I happened to turn on the TV, and a women's talk show was on discussing how to find happiness. As I listened for a moment, I got really angry. Because I knew--I knew how to be happy, and I wasn't doing it.
That was that.
I Made the Shift
I turned off the TV, got a piece of paper, and wrote at the top, “What do I want?”
And I wrote as fast as I could breathe -- to sing with a band, to speak again, to write, to be a happy mother, and on and on.
Then I turned the paper over and wrote, “What's stopping me?”
And again, I wrote as fast as it could flow -- too involved in our family business, not setting healthy boundaries, not valuing who I am, being lazy about my dreams, and more.
And just like that, things shifted.
The Year of Change
That started what I like to call the "Year of the Change."
First I focused on getting fit. It was not pretty. My fashion was often various mumu styles with my hair in a clip. But I found a workout program I could do, got an in-home gym, let my kids play on me and called it sit ups, and ultimately lost 25 pounds and four sizes.
Then I got organized. I streamlined my daily and family schedule, developed tips and tricks, and I saved 26 hours a week.
Then I used that saved time to speak and write again.
Finding Ways to Live My Purpose
I partnered with the divine to figure out what to share and how to do it while keeping family first. I started writing local newspaper columns, which led to writing columns for a bigger paper. Then speaking at events, doing a radio show, and contributing on a lifestyle TV show.
A little bit here, a lot a bit there -- in bursts and stops. I just kept going with the principles and practices I knew to be true.
Now I Help Other Women Shift Too
Now I have seven children, and I’ve become a bestselling author with over 17 books, a national speaker, a media personality, and a program founder of several courses.
With all of it, I help women and families live purposeful, organized, and joyful lives. Whether it's teaching core habits, getting meaningful work/life balance, or how to become an influential writer, speaker, and media personality, I live the life I love.
I know I'm fulfilling my purpose. And my greatest joy--next to my family--is to help you fulfill yours.
If you've got the desire, I've got the tools.
Click HERE to take the Life Shift Quiz and let’s see how I can help you.
Let’s do this!
I find Connie very relatable. There's been a lot of situations she has shared that I have either been through that or am going through currently. It helps to see someone who has already passed through it and says, "Hey, I tried this and it worked - try and see if it works for you too.
I know without a doubt what my purpose is. I've stopped second guessing. I've lost 6 lbs. I finished a draft on my novel that took me over a year and have edited a third within six weeks, all while outlining a second book.
~ Aine Schumire
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