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He IS the Way to Hope, Joy, Life

This past week, I attended two funerals within a few days of each other. Both were very different–a loving matriarch and a young fun-loving mayor.

But they had two important similarities that affected me deeply.

The first funeral, for my dearest friend’s mother, reflected a life of devoted and loving motherhood. She raised nine wonderful children, held various and intense church responsibilities, helped in her communities and befriended many wherever she went.

The second funeral was for the young mayor of our small city. It was sudden and difficult to believe. He was loved and appreciated by so many, with the Lt. Governor Cox attending and speaking. The words shared reflected a life of fun, happiness, and dedication to not only family, work and community, but to making a difference wherever he could in his own wonderful way.

The first thing that struck me about these seemingly two different life experiences was this: good people who did good things and had a good time doing them. Not every second, not in every single thing, but choosing it for most of their lives.

The second was even more powerful. Both of these funerals had woven throughout them a tangible joy and happiness. In both cases, the families were heartbroken at losing their loved ones. But a feeling of great hope permeated the words and the actions of all that were involved.

In both cases, the families believed that they would see their loved ones again. To live with them and laugh with them and once again be reunited with them.

How is this possible? Because of him.images

Because of his perfectly, lovingly, beautifully lived life He also gave us life. Because He suffered for our sins He cleansed us of them and gave us life. And because He offered to die for us, and to be resurrected and live once more, He gave us that same immortal life.

The hope and joy I felt from these families at this difficult time was directly because of all that he is and did and does for us.

One of my favorite scriptures that hangs on my wall is John 10:10:

“I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

How grateful I am at this glorious Easter season to have more fully seen and felt the true hope and joy in Christ. And how grateful I am that we can experience it each day in His divinely designed way.

Love,

Connie


Join Connie for her Studio 5 with Brooke Walker segment on “Dealing with Discouragement.” Her newsletter of the same topic got such a response she is sharing more thoughts this Thursday, 11 a.m., on Channel 5. Enjoy!


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What I learned about how to deal with emotional shifts!

Connie.son.missionOur son left yesterday to serve an LDS mission in Piura, Peru. The send-off went great and wonderful–but to be honest, I thought it would be easier this time. It wasn’t.

So here’s what I’ve learned in 24 hours about how I deal with emotional shifts.I curled up for a nap with my preschooler who was like a toasty warm pillow. I sought out comfort food like soup and a PBJ sandwich. I sniffed the flowers that I bought the day before just for this purpose, aromatherapy and visual joy. 

I went to bed early. I comforted my sweet daughters with a love, encouraging a nap, a healthy comfort food, a smell of the flowers, and going to bed early.Connie.flowers

I reminded myself, often, that this is EXACTLY where he should be and what we had hoped for him to do (an emotional duh reminder, but there it is)
I trusted he got there safe and sound without any word about it being so.

All was well. Until…

This morning I went on the Piura mission Facebook page and saw the post that 7 elders had arrived last night.

But he wasn’t in the pictures.

Small panic starts. I rationalize this is a good time to call the mission home (not wanting to be a hover mother). I find out that they weren’t expecting Elder Sokol until May.

???

Before more panic sets in, I realize that we really DID read the boarding pass correctly and it really did say March.

After a few key heart-stopping moments we realized that because he has gone straight to the Peru MTC apparently that means he is officially under that reference rather than under the mission reference.

RELIEF.

connie.son.hugAnd a chuckle. And an email from said fabulous Elder Sokol not five minutes later!! He arrived safely, is doing great, is loving the MTC, and is sure we are missing such a “handsome stud son” as himself.

Spot on.

Today is better. Although, yes, I called to excuse my daughter’s absence from yesterday’s taking him to the airport and started to cry. Thankfully, the secretary knew exactly how it felt and the sweet comfort of connection that came from sharing it.

Meanwhile, I’m allowing myself to have a day or two transition, as silly as it may sound. It’s a wonderful thing, a fabulous thing, and still a hard thing to love, adore, raise, nurture, and mother a fine young man, and to feel his gentle, kind, and good self missing from our daily lives.

Thank you for your sweet support and love to our family as we start this journey with him, and the emotional, spiritual, and joyful things that brings.

Hugs,
Connie


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Want to Clear Your Mind and Space?

I’ve realized that declutter is a form of therapy.

When I suddenly find myself compelled to clean out a closet, clear out a drawer, or cull out keepsakes, I know I’m doing emotional rumbling. I learned this from my mother. When she rumbles, she moves furniture. During especially difficult times she is known to change the living room nigh unto weekly.  

The other day I needed to do some envisioning, forecasting, and figuring out of a few areas of life. But my mind felt muddled. Instinctively, I started making beds. I don’t know why but that single act can usually get me on the straight and narrow mental road.

But this time it went deeper and my preschooler was looking to me for playtime. In that moment, I listened to my soul and knew this time I shouldn’t sketch it out on paper or jot down buzz words. To tidy was the thing.

Like a mom does, I did a two-fer (think and tidy) and headed to my son’s room without announcing my intention (because telling him it’s time to tidy is not the best choice).

First, we played Legos and car chases and train tracks. When we came to a stopping point, I cheerfully challenged him to pick up 10 pieces, race to pick up the books before me, and discover the “treasures” under his bed. When he finally got tired of that (or wise to it), I sat next to him and surreptitiously decluttered while he busied himself with an imagination story.

Joyfully, I ended up with a happy preschooler and an entire kitchen bag full of toys he would not want (unless he saw them). And I was finally settled to where I had reached that motherhood nirvana–mental clarity.

The point here is, decluttering is not just about getting rid of things, making a clear space, or dejunking a counter. It’s about paying attention to emotional nudgings, using principles that work for you and your life, and making it happen in real-time–not in some magical, mystical free six-hour block that will someday be yours.

I’m excited to help you feel and find that nirvana with simple tips on creating clarity in mind and space. Join me TODAY, Wednesday, for my Facebook Live at 12:05 (www.facebook.com/8basics).

Happy Clarity!

Connie


Watch Connie on Studio 5 with Brooke Walker!

This week it’s all about getting “Clear Mind and Space” with tips to get the emotional as well as physical declutter. Tune in on Thursday at 11 a.m. on Channel 5.

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My Friend’s Fabulous Read!

My friend and bestselling author, Rachelle J. Christensen has a new book! Carve Me a Melody is the second in the series to The Soldier’s Bride, a Kindle Scout Winner & Whitney Finalist.  

About the book:

World War II has ended but the scars of the war have carved deep grooves in Sophie Wright’s heart. Now a widow with two young children, she returns home to Aspen Falls and meets Leland Halverson, a handsome carpenter who appears interested in her, but afraid of a relationship.

Meanwhile, David Alexander, a decorated bomber pilot has returned to Aspen Falls, and Sophie catches his eye. Confused by the two vastly different choices of men, Sophie searches for answers from a heart that has betrayed her before.

Here are links for more info!

Blog post: http://rachellewrites.blogspot.com/2017/03/cover-reveal-for-carve-me-melody-new.html

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Upcoming B2B Events

Weds: Facebook Live at 12:05, a 15-min+ chat on www.facebook.com/8basics – “The Down & Dirty of a Successful Declutter”

Thurs: Studio 5 – “Clear Mind & Space: 3 Practical Keys”

Fri: www.ksl.com blog article on “Clear Mind & Space”–comment on my B2B Facebook post about it and be entered to win a FREE 4-week B2B Jumpstart eCourse!

 

Are your priorities making you lose power?

Jessica PlowmanThe thought of priorities, and our love-hate relationship with them as women, has been on my mind. I’m speaking about it to a church women’s conference this week, and feel to hit on a few key points that have troubled me.

Like, which priorities are key for me, for my family, right now, and how do I refocus my energy on them if it isn’t already?

These are tough questions. Because they change, especially with seven children, ages 23 down to 4. As I’ve thought, prayed, and read, I’ve determined a few things. Space allows me to share one (I’ll share more on my Facebook Live at 12:05 today:)

Most especially, that what Julie B. Beck says is true: “When our priorities are out of order, we lose power.” I’ve found that for myself. When I’m living the whack-a-mole life–meaning, trying to hurry and put out fires and run from thing to thing to get it done–I end up exhausted, irritable, and unfulfilled.

Instead, I’ve seen the benefit of choosing 5-finger living. That’s where I mentally assign on each finger a key area of my life I need to fill each day. Mine currently are to daily do something for: God (spiritual), Myself (health/well-being), Family (husband and children), Ministry (calling/personal purpose), and Service.

When I do one significant thing in each area–significant is not necessarily big, just soul-knowing I need to do it–I feel balanced, fulfilled, and able to disappoint the others who didn’t make the 5-finger list.

There’s so much more but one thing is for sure–ladies, we CAN be happy in motherhood and joyful in womanhood. And I’m feeling to my bones that priorities–knowing which to water and which to weed–are key to that happiness and joy.

I hope you’ll join me for more discussion on this today. I’ll be doing a Facebook Live at 12:05 (because it rhymes and because it gives me five extra minutes to get myself together) on more tips of how to get our priorities in order, and ENJOY the process!

Hugs,
Connie


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“Dealing with Daily Difficulties”
7 p.m.; Lehi Library and Spanish Fork Library
FREE, pre-register at www.conniesokol.com here or text 801.787.4910.
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Recent Life Lessons from my Bucket List

As some of you know, I recently came face to face–somewhat unwillingly–with one of my Bucket List/Life Dream/Why Not? items.

Let me give you the backstory. Several months ago, Studio 5 challenged we core contributors to do a “Never Ever”–something we’ve never done before but wanted to. I’d always wanted to sing with a jazzy, bluesy, Harry Connick Jr.-y Big Band. It was even written on my Life Board. And since it was many months away, it seemed incredibly doable.

Besides, that kind of music thoroughly filled my soul. It brought back the days of Monday night spaghetti, mom stirring while my sisters and I “gave it laldy” (my Scottish mum phrase) to Aretha Franklin. Later, enter Diana Krall, Michael Buble, and a host of others that take me back to the days of a sparkly dress, a trumpet section in tuxedos, and white front boards with the name of the band.  

From my nostalgia came reality. After committing to said Never Ever, I immediately started a few voice lessons but hurt my voice; then came the holidays; then came our B2B roll out of our eCourse in January; and then came an email from Studio 5– “Hey, we’re ready to film, when can we schedule you?”

Crickets.

I literally panicked into action, emailing potential voice teachers, and pleading that they could make me into Diana Krall in four voice lessons. From that moment on, I learned a few key life lessons about fulfilling a Bucket List item.

1.You will try to get out of it. When push comes to shove, the perky sentence on pretty paper will stare you in the face and suddenly, you will organize your sock drawer. Or, like me, email people that you’d like to switch your singing dream to, say, snowboarding–something much, much safer. If you’re lucky, people will compel you to keep your promise to yourself. You will thank them later. Much, much later.

2. You will not do it alone. If you’re wise, you’ll involve others, and quickly. Not only did the voice teachers graciously come to the rescue, I learned three different must-dos from three different teachers. Who knew? I gained confidence, vocal skills, and jazz specifics from each of these wonderful women.

3. You will have to decide to go big or stay small. That doesn’t mean “big” is global or “small” is insignificant. But you’ll know what I mean. There will be a moment that you can retreat to a safer space and choice, and then, you must choose. The original “safe” plan was for me to sing my song at the rehearsal of the BYU Jazz Band, Synthesis. Scary enough, but doable. That day an issue with the camera made it so that the other possible options became singing a warm-up at the band’s Valentine’s Day gig on Saturday, or, a possible rehearsal the next Monday (squeezing it in where it hadn’t been planned).

I seriously felt The Moment–I stood and let it sit on my soul. Was I going to push for the splashy get-a-dress gig or the safer in-a-music-studio option? I’m sad to say that I still needed a divine push to go for the gig, which is ultimately what worked best.

And, of course, there was the dress. So…

4. You will see mini miracles. At the risk of that sounding like an oxymoron these mini miracles will not look like the parting of the Red Sea, but they will feel that way. Take the fact that regarding said dress, I had ONE morning of only TWO hours to find the PERFECT dress to fit me and the situation.

Right.

My mind said “Macy’s” but my gut said “Dillard’s”–no idea why. Toting my preschooler and time ticking, we headed forth and within half an hour found THE best choice! And even though we found a small rip the fab alterations people around the corner fixed it while I played with my son at the treehouse.

Mini Miracle–check.

5. You will need to remember THE FUN. I had two ultimate goals–not be hideous (positively said, Be enjoyable to listen to), and have fun. This was unexpectedly wise. Because at the end of that last note, the moment was over. And it had truly been joy-juicing, soul-filling, to my very bones FUN!

I learned that in the moment of fulfilling your Bucket List, those original visions in your mind come together in unique and unexpected ways–some that you thought, others that you didn’t. But there I was, in a sparkly dress, with a trumpet section in tuxedos, and “giving it laldy.”

Enjoy the short video that shows you the final outcome of my experience. And while it’s good to remember that “It’s all in the editing,” it’s true to the amazing life experience as it felt to me. The tears were just as real then as they are now in the memory of it.   

Here’s to your Bucket List!

Best,
Connie

 
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How do you deal with discouragement?

I’ve been thinking this week about hope, and discouragement, and what makes both a part pexels-photo-103127-largeof our lives.

Because I’m speaking at a women’s retreat this week about this, it’s been sitting on my soul. The director of the event sent me questionnaire responses from the attending women. The information floored me. Their trials ranged from everyday exhaustion to deep, deep difficulties, the kind that don’t resolve with bucking up.

As I searched for real answers, I came across many talks. What resonated would fill pages, but first and foremost was validating their feelings, situation, and self-worth. And then, amazingly, to joyfully emphasize the possibility of hope, no matter what.

This quote from Jeffrey R. Holland and his “Broken Things to Mend” touched me deeply:

“If you are lonely, please know you can find comfort. If you are discouraged, please you can find hope. If you are poor in spirit, please know you can be strengthened. If you feel you are broken, please know you can be mended.”

What was His solution? “Come unto me…He is saying to us, ‘Trust me, learn of me, do what I do. If you will follow me, I will lead you out of darkness…I will give you answers to your prayers. I will give you rest to your souls.” There is a divine source that can heal our burdens. Whether for you that means to God, the Savior, the Universe, or a Higher Power, He can bind up our wounds and restore our hearts.

The second was from Virginia H. Pearce in her book, Extending Forgiveness:

“Gratitude flips the switch because it allows us to see the good. ‘Beauty for ashes. . . the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.” [Isaiah 61:3] It feels just as hard to deal with too many Mom things to do as it does to heal from childhood tragedies. But we can make a choice, and that choice can lead us to healing.

If you’re feeling a little down, or overwhelmed, or even unable to get out of bed, consider handing that burdensome weight right over to a divine source.  I invite you to feel your soul lift and your heart to be light.

And to find beauty for ashes.

Hugs,

Connie


Share a joyful moment with Connie as she shows the highs and lows of recently achieving a life dream–singing live with a Jazz Band! Tune in live to Studio 5 on Friday at 11 a.m. on KSL Channel 5 (and thereafter on www.conniesokol.com).


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Do You Love Your Life?


Valentine ChocolateValentine’s Day which means you’ll be thinking of love.

But how about LOVE-ing your life? Do you?

You can. Right now, where you are, with your current situation. That’s what I teach people to do with Back to Basics principles. You CAN live a more purposeful, organized, and joyful life.

As a national speaker, bestselling author, TV personality, and mother of seven children, I’ve taught and practiced these principles for 20 years with consistently amazing results.

I just practiced a Back to Basics principle yet again this weekend, with incredibly joyful results.

As a contributor for the morning show, Studio 5 with Brooke Walker, I was to choose something I’ve “never ever” done but wanted to. In the Create a Life Plan module I teach you to choose one life goal and go for it. Taking my own advice–(what??) –I went for singing with a Big Band, even just one song. I set the goal, and then I forgot. But then they reminded me, a few weeks ago, that they were ready to film it.

HELP!

Not taking my B2B advice, I opted to get out of it (“How about if I try snowboarding??” No dice…) Then I pulled up my big girl hair-do and learned something about facing myself, setting a deadline, and making it happen.

I followed my Create a Life Plan advice, followed through, and WOW, what a result!IMG_6290

In one crazy week I did four voice lessons, got a fabulous dress, and miracle after miracle occurred to have me sing with the jazz band Synthesis at their Valentine’s gig this past Saturday night.

PURE JOY! 

I’m here to tell you, these Back to Basics principles work! I LOVE them, and then followed them, and they led me to success, and an evening I’ll never forget.

You can do this too, so easily, with real results. Start with my FREE download on “3 Keys to Make a Life Change.”

Read them, try them, enjoy them. Give yourself the gift of LOVE-ing your life, right now.

LOVE your life by taking ONE step to change it.

Happy Changes,

Connie

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